Our friends offer a space for deep honesty, to try on different dreams, test our own ability to love unconditionally and continue to practice receiving.
This weekend I found myself curled up on my couch with two wonderful friends for a spontaneous, very brief, but very real sharing. I realized that I am being held up all the time by my girlfriends’ unspoken understanding of what it means to be a woman; now, here, in all of its beauty and complexity.
And when I want to shrink, it’s my friends who are most able to help me find sure footing and continue to grow.
It is that historical, powerful, yet quiet truth of women supporting women that helps our world stay afloat in the worst of times. Now more than ever it is taking shape beyond personal friendships to a global movement of women knowing we all need to be a collective strength in order to see any shift happen for our next generation.
My wise friend Shasta Nelson, the CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com, shares so eloquently in her blog,
“Friendships let us practice being the people this world needs. We can practice:
* cheering for people even when we’re jealous.
* listening even when we think we’re right.
* empathy even when we’re tempted to judge.
* serving even when we’re busy.
* saying “I forgive you” even when we’re disappointed.”
I think these are beautiful reasons to practice mindful friendships. Shasta also has a new book that launches today! – Friendships Don’t Just Happen!, The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of Girlfriends. I was just at her book signing last night. Check it out!
It’s not often we take time to honor our friendships. I hope some time, during this month of love, you do. And remember, as my teabag told me this morning, the whole world becomes your friend when you practice compassion.
PS. Join me on V-Day, February 14, along with hundreds at City Hall in San Francisco or at an event near you to dance as part of One Billion Rising, a movement to end violence against women around the globe.